International Bon Vivant and Raconteur ([info]nick_kaufmann) wrote,
@ 2008-06-27 10:09:00
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The Rich are Just Like You and Me
Every time I hear someone say, "The rich are just like you and me," I get confused. How exactly are rich people like me? I don't belong to a country club. I don't have a summer house on a shore somewhere, or a winter house, or a ski house. I don't get annual bonuses that could buy small island nations. I don't hire illegal immigrants for poverty-level wages so I can save enough money to throw Tiffany a $5 million sweet sixteen party on a cruise ship. I don't vote for warmongers or Soviet-style domestic spying totalitarians because they promise to keep taxes low.

And I do not physically and mentally abuse people simply because I can.

A millionaire who inflicted years of abuse on two Indonesian housekeepers held as virtual slaves in her Long Island mansion was sentenced Thursday to 11 years in prison.

Varsha Sabhnani, 46, was convicted with her husband in December on a 12-count federal indictment that included forced labor, conspiracy, involuntary servitude and harboring aliens.

The trial provided a glimpse into a growing U.S. problem of domestic workers exploited in slave-like conditions.

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The women, whose relatives in Indonesia were paid about $100 a month -- the women themselves received no cash -- said they were tortured and beaten for misdeeds that included sleeping late or stealing food from trash bins because they were poorly fed. Both women also said they were forced to sleep on mats in the kitchen.


This is insanity. It's also nothing new, it's just that in the past the victims were known as slaves or indentured servants, not housekeepers. And the fact that the article calls it a "growing problem" is alarming. Are rich people all over the country treating their housekeepers as something less than human?

To be fair, this has less to do with simply being rich than it does with the skewed, demented power dynamic that comes from the dangerous mixture of money, entitlement and ennui. In their minds, Mr. and Mrs. Sabhnani were simply punishing the help for whatever infractions, real or perceived, that occurred. And since the victims were illegal aliens, they figured they could do what they wanted to them, since illegals wouldn't risk going to the authorities for help. They were wrong, and now the twisted motherfuckers are going to jail.

The victims testified that they were beaten with brooms and umbrellas, slashed with knives, and forced to climb stairs and take freezing showers as punishment. One victim was forced to eat dozens of chili peppers and then was forced to eat her own vomit when she couldn't keep the peppers down, prosecutors said.

Jesus, this shit is a Jack Ketchum novel waiting to happen. Slashed with knives? Force-fed chili peppers and then forced to eat your own vomit? What the fuck? How crazy do you have to be to inflict this on someone?

By the way, this is my favorite part. Well, my second favorite part after the 11-year sentencing.

"I just want to say that I love my children very much," the defendant told the court as two of her grown children looked on. "I was brought to this Earth to help people who are in need."

...By making them eat their own vomit!

Ah, but the defense has a fool-proof appeal plan:

The defense, which intends to appeal, contended the two women concocted the story as a way of escaping the house for more lucrative opportunities. They also argued that the housekeepers practiced witchcraft and may have abused themselves as part of a self-mutilation ritual.

That's right, witchcraft! What is this, the 1700s? First slavery, then accusations of witchcraft? Maybe the appeals judge should put on his big powdered wig for this one!

I know it's wrong of me to read stories like this and immediately think, Man, the rich sure are fucked up! I know similar abuse happens in other economic strata (usually to family members instead of housekeepers). But in most of the world, the U.S. included, wealth equals power, and this kind of abuse of power is sickening. There's no excuse, no explanation other than the entitlement of wealth taken to extremes. Or maybe straight-up insanity.



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[info]bev_vincent
2008-06-27 03:00 pm UTC (link)
Reminds me of William Shatner doing Common People (here's a great video of him on Leno accompanied by none other than Joe Jackson)

You'll never live like common people
You'll never do whatever common people do.
You'll never fail like common people.
You'll never watch your life slide out of view,
and dance and drink and screw

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[info]rfrancis
2008-06-27 03:31 pm UTC (link)
The reason I prefer the Shatner cover to the Pulp original is that, to my ear, Shatner sounds angrier. And it's an angry, angry song.

I like it a whole lot.

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[info]temporus
2008-06-27 03:02 pm UTC (link)
*boggle*

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[info]horrorofitall
2008-06-27 03:07 pm UTC (link)
Hey, leave us rich alone! I haven't abused anyone. Recently!

And I don't think it has anything to do with them being rich. Being rich just made it easier. They are just sociopaths and would have done the same thing in a double wide in Kansas to who ever they could find.

Now back to my Country Club to play a round, abuse the greens keeper, then to the shore house, then the ski house, then the lake house all in the same weekend. ( I take the private jet, and I might even abuse the pilot if I feel up to it)

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[info]nick_kaufmann
2008-06-27 03:20 pm UTC (link)
Remember Ludlow!

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[info]haddayr
2008-06-27 03:22 pm UTC (link)
It isn't wrong of you; all of this abuse and crap is directly related to their sense of power and entitlement they have received from being spectacularly rich. It's imminently fair of you.

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[info]nick_kaufmann
2008-06-27 03:25 pm UTC (link)
Nah, it's really no more fair of me than if I were to say all Irish are violent drunks because I saw an Irish guy get arrested for drunken brawling. Though you can draw a somewhat direct line from the power and entitlement of their wealth to the abuse they dealt out, there's no indication of actual cause and effect. Bank account numbers don't make people crazy. Crazy makes people crazy.

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[info]haddayr
2008-06-27 03:28 pm UTC (link)
But all Irish ARE violent drunks. You are not making sense!

In all seriousness, crazy makes people crazy. But bank account numbers make them do certain THINGS with the crazy. It's the WAY rich people go crazy that is not like me and you.

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[info]nick_kaufmann
2008-06-27 03:30 pm UTC (link)
Agreed. With more resources at their disposal, rich crazy people can afford to go REALLY crazy!

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[info]suricattus
2008-06-27 03:38 pm UTC (link)
and,because they have money,they can coerce people into taking the crazy. A poor, powerless crazy person lacks easy access to (human) victims.

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[info]jeffpalmatier
2008-06-27 06:12 pm UTC (link)
Just off the top of my head people like Howard Hughes, Elvis, Axl Rose, Michael Jackson come to mind in that their money acted as an enabler to allow them to go totally off the deep end. And they are surrounded by people who are afraid of being cut off from the gravy train, so they say yes to whatever craziness they come up with. It doesn't help that these crazy rich people banish from their circle those who actually care about them and try to get it through their head that they are acting weird.

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[info]stephen_dedman
2008-06-28 02:02 am UTC (link)
Agreed. Not to mention Kim Jong Il, George W. Bush, Robert Mugabe...

Being rich doesn't necessarily make someone more of a bastard, though it does give them more power to coerce people. Somewhat like owning a gun (yes, I am pissed at the last Supreme Court decision. The last two, actually), but rather more so.

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[info]jeffpalmatier
2008-06-28 02:15 am UTC (link)
No, I don't think so either. I also don't think because somebody is of a modest income means that they are a good person. The only generalization I think is credible is that people who belong to the same social class tend to share certain attitudes and beliefs, good or bad, but there can also be a fair amount of variation from one person to another.

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[info]stephen_dedman
2008-06-28 02:40 am UTC (link)
Much depends, I think, on how the wealth is acquired, and how it is later used. For all my left-wing leanings, I believe that there are honest ways to acquire more than modest wealth, and circumstances which could justify keeping it (though I don't speak from experience, at least not by Australian or US middle-class standards).

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[info]nick_kaufmann
2008-06-28 04:42 am UTC (link)
Bill Gates is a good example of using enormous wealth toward positive ends. He just resigned from Microsoft to spend all his time and money trying to find cures for malaria and AIDS.

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[info]cinriter
2008-06-27 03:52 pm UTC (link)
Hey, the poor just beat on their kids and maybe their elderly relatives. Then they shoot each other.

I don't see this as a class distinction. I see it as endemic of a culture that tolerates - and to some extinct even celebrates - cruelty. Look at our horror movies, fer cryin' out loud - torture and cruelty.

No, the disturbing part of this story is that it went on for YEARS. Years?! Surely during that time visitors to the house must have noticed something, but presumably said nothing. Granted, those visitors were all rich as well...but once again, I get a culture of cruelty, not a class of cruelty.

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[info]nick_kaufmann
2008-06-27 04:13 pm UTC (link)
Replace "culture of cruelty" with "culture of feeling entitled to do whatever you want whenever you want to whomever you want" and I'm with you 100%. It's just that I see this kind of entitlement more from the monied than anyone else.

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[info]glamberson
2008-06-27 04:02 pm UTC (link)
What's funny is when middle income families--why do we persist in this notion of a middle class? It's fantasy--move to other countries and suddenly find themselves perceived as being rich. I was startled to discover that a good friend of mine, who grew up in Hong Kong, had a legion of servants as a kid, and that a friend of his--a fellow American--still lived there--and forced her live-in servant to sleep in a bed that pulled out of a wall like a drawer! Mr. French had it much better in FAMILY AFFAIR.

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[info]nick_kaufmann
2008-06-27 04:14 pm UTC (link)
I had a housekeeper when I grew up in Connecticut. She didn't live at our house all the time, but she did have a really nice bedroom on the second floor all to herself.

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[info]glamberson
2008-06-27 04:16 pm UTC (link)
You'r a elite! You're a elite!

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(Anonymous)
2008-06-29 05:19 pm UTC (link)
I have a domestic full time maid, as it is very common we could hire overseas domestic helpers from Philippines, and Thailand. Erin sleeps in the other bedroom we have, we only have a 2 bedroom apartment.. she eats with us, I pay for most of her daily perssonal stuff, buy her clothes especially when she first came out here with no warm clothing. I practically created a whole new wardrobe for her for that matter. Actually have a few domestic helpers before, and they all said we are the best employers, because Erich and I do not think they are just domestic helper, but like our staff who help us with work while we have other work to attend to, like a team work. She does not know how to cook, nor shop, so I taught her that, from how to use the washing machine to cleaning. However, she says like our all our previous helpers ( actually they are relatives, one referred another after they have made and save enough money to go home to start some business), some employers are great and some are lousy. However, it has little to do with the income of the employers. So, I think there are all kind of nasty people from all wealth and income. When I grew up we had this amah who helped my mother to take care of me and my 2 other siblings, and when she passed away, we were even more sad than her own son. We were crying like crazy (we were all adults by then). She was like my grandma I never had. Again, it is the teaching of my parents who came from rich family before the communist took everything, that we have to treat people with respect. May be on a second thought that is why we are not rich yet. I do not really care that much as I have food on the table the next day, roof over my head, a computer, and freedom to express... and we are already way ahead of million and million of people... still. Really, I do not envy the ultra rich, money is important but too much tend to be a bit silly. I still do not understand like those things with Sex and the City, with those shoes and clothings. I mean these women will poo poo and break wind, and walk on the sidewalk when they may also step on poo poo.. hahaha... or fast car with speed limit, big yacht. I however do not mind travelling long haul first class or busines class ( but the people who sit in these classes are so boring and unfriendly than those of coach). The only thing I like it coz I can get some sleep comfortably. The best is to have enough and yet, to still appreciate things and people and experience in life... and have the time to love and be loved and be able to give back to the society in whatever way we can.
again 2cent opinion from Hong Kong.

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[info]jeffpalmatier
2008-06-27 06:19 pm UTC (link)
I find it weird how we use the term "middle class" because it seems to be used almost too inclusively to include people of widely differing income brackets, even though I've also heard it used as the English language equivalent of bourgeoisie. Obviously, the working class and the bourgeoisie tend to have different income brackets and even mindsets, so this current use to describe almost everybody as middle class strikes me as sloppy and even weird.

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[info]justinhowe
2008-06-27 04:24 pm UTC (link)
Fucked. Absolutely and utterly bang your head against the wall fucked.

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[info]jlundberg
2008-06-28 03:09 am UTC (link)
This has been a major problem in Singapore for the last 15 or 20 years, especially with Filipino maids. There are a lot of wealthy people here, or people who aren't but put on the airs of wealth, and it seems as if the vast majority of their domestic workers are from the Philippines. Every so often, as with this news, someone gets caught at it -- either the maid finally speaks up, or neighbours phone the police -- but there are many many others that don't. It makes me wonder if this is a problem endemic to prosperous societies.

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[info]_me_112
2008-06-28 02:01 pm UTC (link)
I'm definately not "rich"...We're the ones who rent in a well-to-do area. However, I know people who have live-in childcare, etc. and they aren't crazy...there are some that live with little concept of reality, but there are many here that are "normal" people--they just live in bigger houses. Money can facilitate abuse, but you have to be completely off of your rocker before you get the money to do stuff like that.

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[info]possumqueen
2008-06-29 02:56 am UTC (link)
My vote goes for common insanity, aggravated by wealth, plus a toxic cultural sense of entitlement and superiority. The USA has no exclusive contract on these most disgusting human qualities. They are rampant wherever humans are conceived, whelped, bought and sold. Accessories sold separately.

If it wasn't for the nice ones (of whom I know many), I'd hate the entire human race with an obliterating nihilistic rage. :) Me and Mark Twain.

[YOU, of course, are lousy with lovability. *picks love bugs out of your beard*]

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